A long time ago, in a studio far away, on the old DNR (Derek and Romaine) Show, I heard an interview with Lori Duron; Mother of CJ and author of a blog (and book) about adventures in raising a fabulous, ‘gender-creative child‘. I immediately borrowed the book from my local library, read most of her blog entries, and started following their Facebook page.
In the past year, the number of parents blogging about similar experiences has grown. Or perhaps just become more visible. Each time I discover a new one I share it on my Facebook profile. I share many of the individual posts. I will continue to do so, as they are still far too rare and still too risky for those involved, for me to be blase.
Yes, much of the ‘western world’ has gotten more accepting of LGBTQ folk. Not everyone, not every institution, and often just for adults. Children who are supported as they question social norms, gender roles and stereotypes are still not the majority. At least, for those who go beyond the idea that Nursing is a job for women while being a Doctor is a man’s career. This is not another Coming Out for me- other than adding lots of colour and bling to Sister Flirt over the next few months, I am pretty happy with my mostly traditionally male clothing and presentation.
My life has always included a loving, accepting family. But I’ve known so many, too many, queer folk that have not had that love and acceptance from their biological family. I came out in 1978 and then lived through the AIDS Epidemic. While the virus is still present, it is no longer the ‘you have x weeks (days) to get things in order’ diagnosis it once was. Things have, often, gotten better. But not as quickly or thoroughly as it, in my not-so-humble opinion, should. Trans folk are still being murdered just for living. Kids are still being bullied for being suspected of being queer. Being– existence. Basic. Core.
And so every time a young gender-creative person is accepted, another hunk of skepticism and bitterness falls away. As I told one of the bloggers listed here, “not only do you inspire young families- you mend old hearts.”
Here is a short list- I will gladly add new ones as I find (or are told about) them.
Elevating the Discourse – Some days the incessant talk from a straight-based society of rigid structure filled with white male privilege seems to drown out our deeply-felt queer self-expression. Let the world know what they are doing while refusing to use obscenities with this classy t-shirt.
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